So I figured out what my beef is with Babywise. For two and a half years now something about it has really rubbed me the wrong way. And I know lots of good moms who swear by it, so I felt like I was insulting them by saying it bothers me. But I couldn't figure out what really bothered me exactly. Well, a big part was that I had a baby who I just couldn't get on a schedule to save my life. It really stressed me out. And he didn't sleep. So I kept going back looking for answers and feeling more and more like a failure every day.
I did the same thing the other day (since I have a three month old who isn't STTN) and found this on their website:
On Becoming Babywise is not a book of luck but of principle. Luck has nothing to do with the benefits described above – right parenting does. What you do in the first days, weeks, and months of your baby’s life will impact the rest of your parenting years.
The "benefits" described were a happy baby who sleeps through the night. THAT's IT!! I figured out what keeps rubbing me the wrong way. The phrase "right parenting".
It's basically saying everything else is wrong parenting. And that may not be exactly what they mean (although I believe it is). It's how it makes you feel anyway if you aren't successful getting your baby to sleep through the night by a certain age. I'm not against the principles of parent directed feeding or the Eat Awake Sleep cycle. Those are reasonable and apparently work for thousands of moms. And I'm still trying to do it.
You just can't claim that your way is the right way to parent. I mean how did the world even make it to this point without Babywise? It's amazing we're not all ax murderers who never sleep. THANK YOU BABYWISE FOR SAVING US.
sorry, just a little rant.
but guess what? I'll still look at the Babywise Mom's site for info b/c there's a lot there. It's a good source of advice and information.
And you're probably thinking, (especially if you're a BW mom) "c'mon Kristie, it's just their opinion." Well it's not just the authors' opinion. Most BW moms that I've read subscribe to the same idea. I've read it multiple times on Chronicles of a BW mom and from comments by her followers. Lots of back patting. Which is fine! Please pat your own back, bc you won't get it from many other places. But don't make other moms feel like their way is wrong.
Here is a link to a really great article. It basically says that we give ourselves way too much credit for how kids turn out and don't give God enough. He says that we should not be asking ourselves " Am I parenting successfully?", but "Am I parenting faithfully?".
THat I can do! I can't promise I'll be successful. There is no way I can guarantee my son or daughter is going to be happy, sleep, make straight A's, or make all the right choices. I just have to be faithful in teaching them what I can and pray God will take care of the rest.
There. I feel better.
Now, to get that baby to sleep....